Love is Progressive Part 47: Imperfect People, Perfect Love
It is an axiom that nobody is perfect. We all muddle through life with our imperfections, foibles and faults, some better than others. Both our imperfections and our differences contribute to the difficulty of relationships, whether they be intimate relationships, potential intimate relationships, family relationships, or friendships.
Yet, most people manage to form close bonds with certain other people. The drive for emotional, and physical intimacy is certainly very strong in most of us, but also, the capacity to collaborate in loving ways. Here I suggest that it is genuine love that allows people to overlook their differences and find commonality -- the recognition that we all truly are one.
Love means acceptance of and caring for a person as she or he is. It means having basic faith in a person, patience and understanding. It means reaching out across the gap between us to touch each other spiritually. In committed relationships it means loyalty and devotion, but not compromising one's principles. I know all this not only from descriptions of loving relationships, or observation, but from experience. I have been blessed to know genuine, unconditional love from others, not only by giving it. I have known such love from my early days when I was dependent upon my adoring parents, and again when I found my future wife who loved me intensely from early on, and still does. I would even say that my older brothers and I have a close bond of unconditional regard for each other, and they have been largely good role models for me. And I know unconditional love from certain close friends.
I have been blessed with love and I thank those who love me. But not everyone is so blessed. In Humanistic Psychology theory, lacking unconditional love undermines a person's quest for self-actualization, but I think it is more complex than that. A person whose inner compass is out of whack, will not move in a positive direction when given the support and latitude to. A person who is damaged, seeks to compensate for that damage, sometimes in ways that are counterproductive. People are often motivated by their lives' shortcomings, and mistake cognitive biases for the truth. Perhaps that applies to us all to a degree, as we deal with our flaws. But when we experience love, even our own love, it allows us to see past those flaws, and we experience something of the perfection of this great creation, the Universe in which we live.
I know that whatever may come between two people conceptually, when I experience love, nothing can come between us, and that is the perfectness of love.
We need to experience togetherness now, as a society. We need to experience Universal love, and the Oneness that it brings, in order to move forward. We have seen where reliance on an economic model of capitalism has led humanity, and we are fast sliding down a slippery slope to extreme inequality, intransigent social ills, and ecological disaster. The future progress of humanity lies in taking care of each other and nature, working with each other rather than against in fierce competition, working with nature rather than against nature to satisfy our greedy wants. With a spirit of love, humanity can overcome whatever differences we may have, and focus on our common goal. How we may dismantle the current system, I am not sure, but I know that change is inevitable, and we can succeed in creating a more perfect world if we move in the same direction together. If not, humanity will be in for a very difficult time. Evolve or go extinct; that is nature's dictum. I just noticed something about the word "evolve." It is a double anagram for "love." Both the first 4 and the last 4 letters can be used to spell love, so let us feel the love, let nothing come between us, and evolve, for it is toward love that we must evolve if we are to succeed.